choose THREE of the following relationship aspects and discuss the ways in which gender influences the way men AND women think about

gender and its effects on different aspects of relationships are highlighted. For this forum choose THREE of the following relationship aspects and discuss the ways in which gender influences the way men AND women think about: • The ideal sexual partner (remember the assistant will read this so keep it PG and PC) • The ideal marriage partner • Reactions to breaking up • Satisfaction with marriage • The decision to seek a divorce. Hint: High scoring answers will include examples from the book AS WELL AS personal experiences. Include relevant citations.

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And please comment on these two articles within 100 words.

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• The ideal sexual partner 

With the ideal men and women set in place by society, I have personally seen others turn down amazing people for not fitting into these cookie cutter ideals. The beauty, or body, standards of some of my friends seemed more and more shallow throughout the years. Some of the partners I usually go for do not fit within all these standards and I have been judged, mostly by women, for this in the past. I’m white and overall fit so others often assume men that look like the models you’ll see in Hollister ads are my “type”. However, my ideal partners are often the complete opposite from this and I will only pursue others that I feel a connection with. I stopped associating with people who have had issues with my choices in men because I think the ideal sexual partner varies between everyone, and people are allowed to date , or be sexually active, with others who they find connections with. 

• Reactions to breaking up

Personally my first reactions to a break up usually starts with the questions, am I not good enough or what did I do wrong?  Depending on how serious the relationship was, I can go through long periods of time depressed or sad tying to find ways to better myself, and move on. When some of  my male friends go through a break up they usually go out more, drink a lot, and rarely express any emotions they might be feeling about it. This usually is followed up by lots of one night stands, or reckless behavior. Some spend most of their days at the gym which I think can be a healthy way to relieve stress. 

• The ideal marriage partner

Growing up with the classic Disney movies like The Little Mermaid, I formed ideas and expectations about ideal partners that are not very realistic. I thought i’d be swept off my feet, marry my first lover, and there wouldn’t be any conflicts to worry about when I was very young. Now I consider someone who has a decent job, wants kids, is supportive of what I do and likes to be active as an ideal partner to settle down with. I was surprised when I read, “ women were more likely to emphasize a partner’s earning capacity, while men were more likely to emphasize physical attractiveness(Crawford, pg 239)”. The author goes into great detail about why women think this way and the reasons all revolve around women having less opportunities in life than men. Stability is something that i’d like to achieve myself, but id also like to have a partner who is stable and supportive as well. 

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• The ideal sexual partner

 Sex is an essential part of adult life. From the perspective of Freudian psychoanalysis, sex is an important motivation to drive human beings’ behavior. In most people’s eyes, the ideal sexual partner often has the following characteristics: health, good-looking, intelligent, kind, and so on. But different cultures can influence the ideal sexual partner. East Asian men, for example, value chastity. Many men value virginity. This can be found in film and television works. Many screenwriters use virginity as plot conflicts to push the plot forward. Additionally, health and attractive appearance are important factors that increase sexual attraction. People tend to have a special tolerance for people with good looks. I admit that human beings are visual creatures, but it seems too shallow to judge others solely on their appearance. I find that people have different requirements for sexual partners at different ages. Older people seem to prefer mature sexual partners with high emotional quotient.

• The ideal marriage partner

“Marriage is an institution” (Crawford 223). Except for sexual factors, the ideal marriage partner often involves economic conditions, social status, family background, and ambition. Different cultures have different requirements for ideal marriage partners. As the book says, “cultural differences were much more important than gender differences.” (Crawford 239) These cultures often reflect different traditional values. The survey mentioned in the book demonstrates that s samples from China, Indonesia, India, and Iran placed great importance on virginity in a marriage; those from Scandinavia considered it irrelevant. (Crawford 239). As an Asian, I am familiar with the concept of marriage in East Asia. East Asian men tend to expect a virtuous wife. They value their wives’ roles and responsibilities in the family. When I was a little girl, I heard too many discussions about a wife’s duty. Even today, my mother still tries to teach me how to be a good wife.

• Reactions to breaking up

I think people who passively accept the ending of a relationship tend to think of problems with themselves, while people who offer breaking up is usually unhappy with the relationship. Some people will have no big changes after the breakup, while others will fall into a negative mood as a result. My reaction to this is that I will talk to my friends about my pain, and then stay with my friends to get through this tough period. Additionally, I think it is related to emotional investment in a relationship. If you put your heart and soul into a relationship, you may feel painful when it ends； however, if you just want to trifle with someone’s affections, you will not feel much feelings.

Works Cited

Crawford, Mary. Transformations: Women, Gender, and Psychology, 3th ed, University of Connecticut, 2018.